The internet has turned on a woman who judged her friend and partner’s relationship based on their age, with one calling the poster ‘jealous’.
In the post shared on the online forum Mumsnet on Tuesday, the woman, who went by the name “Judgeygem”, explained that she lived up to her username and confessed to some opinions related to the discrepancy. age in her friend’s relationship.
According to the BBC, the average age difference in heterosexual relationships in the United States in 2014 was 2.3 years, and around 8% had an age gap of 10 years or more. In relationships involving gay men, 25% had a difference of 10 years or more, while 15% of lesbian couples had the same age difference.
Writing on the AIBU forum—Am I being unreasonable?—website, Judgeygem said, “My friend is 30 and on paper he has a life I would envy, he has such a wonderful house he has own Instagram and lots of followers, have a lot of great holidays, lots of money, cute kids, always dress up, always get their nails done!”
“I went to her wedding last year and it was lovely and clearly expensive, but I couldn’t believe her husband. She’s 30 and he’s 45!” friend wrote.
“He’s handsome and he looks younger than his age, but I couldn’t understand why such an attractive and dynamic woman would marry someone who will soon become an old man? I saw them today and I don’t I couldn’t help judging them a bit, even though they look very happy. AIBU? Why do women cheat like that?’” she asked.
Her comments raised a few eyebrows online, with many wondering if she was actually more jealous of her friend than she wanted to admit.
One user said: “We will all be old one day, 45 is far from a fragile age. She doesn’t change herself because she marries the person she loves. You seem very bitter and jealous to be honest , I hope you will soon find your own happiness.”
Another wrote: “Judging them for what? Having lots of money or having a 15 year age gap? Not jealous right?”
A third commented: “YABVU [you are being very unreasonable]. It’s not that obnoxious an age gap at that age anyway. Some people look and act like old people at 50. Others are fit and attractive in their 70s.
“Crazy suggestion but maybe she, you know, likes it?” Why on earth would you judge someone, a friend no less, who is presumably happy with his life? Good for her tbh [to be honest]looks like she’s having a good life.”