Members of a popular internet forum have been left stunned after a man revealed why his fiancee felt ‘humiliated and jealous’ after meeting with friends.
In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/RoundReplacement7840 compared his fiancee’s “unique” beauty to his “conventionally handsome” friend and asked the forum’s 4 million members if covering her friend of compliments on her appearance ran through everything. metaphorical lines.
Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for complimenting a friend of mine making my fiancee jealous?” the post received over 6,600 votes and 3,600 comments in the last day.
Beginning with the explanation that his 27-year-old fiancée (referred to as “Jane”) is a lawyer, the original poster described her fashion sense as “casual chic” and claimed that her friend (referred to as “Sara”), who works as a marriage counselor, dresses in a more “glamorous” way.
Continuing to explain that he and his fiancée had been engaged for a year, the original poster claimed he adored her and called her “the kindest and most supportive woman” he had ever met.
The original poster also stated that his fiancée had recently started calling him whenever he went out of his way to pay homage to Sara’s immaculate appearance.
“Sara is the kind of woman who makes everyone turn their heads and stare at her every time she walks into a room. She’s always been that way,” he wrote. “Jane didn’t seem to mind at first, but later she started to get bothered every time I ‘overdid’ Sara, but she still didn’t really care.”
However, at a recent engagement party for another friend, the original poster said things had changed, and his constant compliments for Sara became a big deal for him and his fiancée.
“As always, once Sara walked in, everyone turned to look at her,” he wrote. “It was one of the best outfits she would wear and one of the best hairstyles she would have.”
“Went up to say hello and couldn’t help but compliment her all night because she really outdid herself,” he wrote. “I noticed Jane sitting alone later and went to ask her what was wrong.”
“She replied that I’m ridiculous for asking like I didn’t already know. Then my friend’s new fiancee and my friend pulled me aside and told me they spotted my fiancee trying to cry in the hallway,” the original poster continued. “She told them she felt like she would never be as good and as pretty as Sara in my eyes.”
In 2017, love and relationship outlet Your Tango tackled the issue of a male partner thinking a woman other than their own partner is attractive.
Throughout the article, Your Tango writer Michelle Zunter assured that a man who thinks a woman outside of his relationship is attractive is natural.
“Noticing that others are attractive isn’t just normal, it’s instinctual,” Zunter wrote.
What Zunter asserted is neither normal nor acceptable, however, acts inappropriately on those feelings of attraction.
“There is a big difference between watching people and acting out of line,” Zunter wrote.
While noticing beauty and simple compliments are both part of normal and acceptable interactions, gushing over another woman’s appearance in front of a romantic partner is less acceptable and likely to cause problems within a relationship.
Throughout the comments section of the viral post, Redditors relayed this message to the original poster and questioned his motives for repeatedly complimenting his friend’s outfit, hair and general appearance, despite previous conversations with his fiancée about this exact behavior.
Responding to the claim that he “couldn’t stop” complimenting Sara’s looks, Redditor u/Sputtrosa assured the original poster that he was wrong for humiliating his fiancée in a way. so blatant.
“What the hell?” they exclaimed, collecting nearly 23,000 votes. “You ‘couldn’t stop’? Yeah, [you’re the a**hole].”
In a separate comment, which received over 12,500 votes, Redditor u/Left-Car6520 echoed that sentiment.
“My man. I hear you salivating over Sara from here,” they wrote. “Have you ever considered not doing this to your fiancée?”
“Sara is beautiful, gorgeous, glamorous, we get it,” they continued. “But you can just shut your mouth about it…it’s not hard to understand.”
“So basically you’re attracted to Sara, but you’ve decided Jane is a better fit for you. Alright,” Redditor u/Pleasant_Birthday_77 replied, receiving nearly 7,000 votes.
“There is no need to make it so obvious and insult and humiliate Jane,” they added. “Restrain yourself, you are an adult.”
Newsweek contacted u/RoundReplacement7840 for comment.